You’re Freakin’ Bored With the Sex You’re Getting

So, here’s a situation where you want to tell your lover that you are totally bored with sex-specifically, the sex you have when you’re with them. You may (or may not) actually reach orgasm, but you don’t get excited anymore thinking about being with them. Your sexual activity has become predictable, average, feels like maintenance, and more often than not-TOO BRIEF!!

You want more. Maybe try new things. Include new accoutrements (toys, fabrics, food, people) or make memories in new places. Whatever it is you want to explore, you want to do it with them. So you have to figure out a way to say it that doesn’t make them dry or shrivel up, get defensive, walk way, or shut it down completely. This isn’t supposed to be a break up…just a step up.

So what do you do?

SITUATION FACTORS

*You like the person-it could be your husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, friend with benefits, booty call, casual partner…whomever.
*You want to maintain the sexual relationship;
*You want to try more and/or different things with them (as opposed to someone else)
*This is a quality issue, not a quantity issue-that’s another situation topic.

YOUR MESSAGE:

I want you. And with you I want to explore more sexually. I want to take our climax to new levels. I know that we have yet to reach our sexual potential.

SAMPLE WORDS & PHRASES

*You make me want more.
*What if I tell you that you make me want to do very naughty things?
*I have a surprise for you.
*Are you up for trying something new?
*Tell me about a fantasy you’ve yet to try.
*If you tell me a sexy secret, I’ll tell you one right back.
*I feel like I haven’t tapped in to my passionate and raw side. Come with me.
*I want to feel your breath on the back of my neck, even after you’ve long gone.
*I’m ready. You ready? Ready to go there. You know where. Whisper it in my ear.

WARNINGS!!!

*Do not use words that place blame
*Do not create ultimatums
*The automatic response is for the recipient to take it personally. And rightly so, and make you have to defend yourself-thus getting off topic.
*Do not say, “I’m bored.”

SENSITIVITY FACTORS

*They may not be as experienced.
*They may be shy; you may be shy.
*Old baggage around sex.
*Personal insecurity.
*Fear of rejection.
*Work a lot; tired.
*Children considerations.
*You’ve gotten so familiar with each other and comfortable that sex is no longer a priority.
*You both aren’t keeping you’re A-game up with each other.
*Religious constraints.

EXPRESSIVE METHODS:

*Handwritten message
*In person (after a couple of drinks…to keep the automatic defense reaction at a minimum)
*Text message

SAMPLE DELIVERY METHODS:

*A gift in a box, with a handwritten note. For example, “I have a surprise for you” written note (not typed) in a box as a gift, lying on top of silk scarf.
*Voice note (like a text) with the Blackberry
*As a whisper in the ear over dinner, while driving…or any place that’s not home to build up anticipation.

The key in the delivery method is to keep it intimate. You want to create intrigue and stimulate desire.

WHAT TO EXPECT:

*This is not a situation that can be fixed over night.
*It takes consistent (soft and sexy) suggestions to shift the expectations
*Perhaps resistance at first; but if demonstrate that this is not a unilateral criticism, and that you want to step it up with them (and them only-unless you both decide you want to invite a guest or two)
*You may be making all the effort for change in the beginning. It doesn’t mean that the person doesn’t want change…just may have a more difficult time initiating the change.
*Hopefully eventually…AMAZING SEX!!!

THOUGHTS FROM DR. MIKYTA DAUGHERTY, PhD

Given the fact that you’re the one who wants more from your partner, you have the uncomfortable task of making your needs known in a non-threatening way. This is the hard part because everyone is a bit self-conscious when it comes to their sexual abilities and thus, anything you say is likely to feel a little threatening. They may become sullen or defensive when presented with the hard news that they’re not cutting it in bed. Expect it and treat it with compassion. The key is to emphasize your confidence in their ability to meet your needs. Offer your vulnerability and invite them to join. Show them what you’d like. If skill is the problem, there’s plenty to find on the internet and in Barnes and Nobles. Buy some books and read them aloud. Watch videos with each other. Make it fun and something you do together. Make it a game where the goal isn’t to win but to have fun – you’re on the same team.

Also, keep in mind that some people have been mistreated sexually. There may be problems that have nothing to do with you. Either way, if your partner does not respond the way you’d like, don’t take it personally. If you hit this hard, their insecurity should be short lived.

Putting Yourself Out There With BBW Sex Personals

Dating options have expanded over the years and with the ability to search for a great experience online you can place BBW sex personals on a specialty site. Due to their nature, specialized dating sites come with a minimal membership fee. Why go with a paid site, you may be asking.

With a proper service, you’ll be offered security, selection and people who are there to look after protecting your interests. Additionally, it takes extra work to run a specialized dating site and keep people who do not fit in the particular specialty out.

Your happiness is key, so dating sites do a lot of work to create the right environment and atmosphere. Your job is made easier; be yourself and prepare your wish list. By placing a detailed profile and great photos to enhance the search your BBW sex personal ad will have a lot more hits.

Good quality dating sites have filters in place to help make them more desirable and find the right type of people who will enhance the experience for the clients. Some will have a chat feature as well as messaging so you can speak to different candidates that might prove interesting to you. This offers you great variety and widens the choices available to you.

You have the option to be completely open about who you are or be a little more conservative. How you want to attract a potential mate is up to you and your profile. The good online sites make this a much easier process by assisting you with a BBW sex personal profile, which takes some of the stress out of the dating game. Remember, creating a great image of yourself by expressing who you really are will make it easier for the right person to find you.

If you have something special, you want to add that you feel makes you stand out more, do it. Each person has his/her own unique qualities. By being yourself in your profile, you will open up a whole new world. You will attract people who want someone like you, which is what you want.

By doing research into the sites you have interest in, you will see the services they have to offer. Rates may change with promotions but professional sites are the best choice if you’re serious about a good encounter. Most of them offer a free trial period.

If you travel a lot, or just want to find someone regardless of where they live the online dating arena is a great choice. Many dating sites take great pride in their ability to match the right people together given their requests, profiles and information provided.

If you know people who have experience with online dating, speak to them about their experience and the options they’ve chosen. Which sites they felt gave them the best service and catered to the needs they had. Your BBW sex personals are an advertisement of who you are and what you want in someone who can evoke desire from you. Be sure to let people know who you are, and what you want, and let the dating site take care of offering you an array of dating potentials to make you happy.

Sears Promo Codes – What Can I Buy With Them?

A lot of people are looking for ways they can save money. Whether they are buying food, clothing, household items, and necessities, it is the innate nature of an individual to look for a discount. If they cannot find a discount, they will look for a cheaper option. This though, does not apply with Sears promo codes.

The beauty about having a code is that you can get to save some items on your shopping venture. Since you have gotten a promo code for Sears, you can make use of the discount only with the brand. But you should not worry on what you can use it with as Sears has a complete line of everything that you can possibly need or want. The only thing they lack is food.

You can use your promo code if you will buy appliances, automotive/tires, beauty, baby, bed, bath, home, books, clothing, electrical gadgets, gifts, fitness, sports, health, jewelry, and a lot of other products. With Sears, you can easily have choose what you want to buy as they have such an extensive array of available products that you can choose from. You can even buy gifts for your friends.

The list of items that you can buy with your Sears promo codes seems to be endless. Your needed items can simply be bought at Sears. Because of this, you do not need to go to another retail store so you can complete what’s on your list. Truly, this fact alone can already save you some money on transportation costs that you would have otherwise needed to spend.

Top Brand Professional Automotive Tools Reviewed – Know Your Budget

The tool market is well serviced in terms of brands, design, quality and price. The key consideration is to evaluate your needs. For example, it is pointless buying a laptop capable driving sophisticated 3G games when really all that is required from the unit is basic desktop and internet work. This kind of example also applies to buying tools. For instance, why waste one’s budget on buying the most expensive tools when their application is for occasional hobby type tasks.

Lets start with an overview comparison. It is widely agreed that the best quality and designed tools are manufactured by the Snap-on company. This brand of tools is designed for the professional market. No tool brand is perfect and infallible to failure. However, the Snap-on lifetime warranty means that when a tool breaks, it is replaced or repaired by the service representatives. Snap-on tools can be bought from their distribution trucks and vans that visit automotive workshops. Alternatively, their online catalog allows purchasing via the internet. Second-hand and recycled Snap-on tools are also eagerly traded through websites like eBay and eBay Partner sites.

As noted above, Snap-on automotive tools are at the upper price range. However, there is no shortage of professional grade tool brands at price points below that of the Snap-on brand. For example the brands: Matco, MAC and Cornwell are equally respected in the professional automotive sector. Matco, MAC and Cornwell off a range of professional tools that deliver quality and reliability while carrying sound lifetime warranties and professional after sales service. And are less expensive than the Snap-on brand for the budget minded professional automotive technician. The availability of these brands for sale is similar to Snap-on tools. Trucks visit and distribute tools at automotive workshops. Also, online catalogs and auction type websites offer buy opportunities.

For those budget sensitive buyers, the next set of tool brands is SK and Craftsman. The manufacturing quality of these brands meet USA standards and carry similar lifetime warranties like those brands mentioned above. So, for the semi-professional or hobbyist application these tool brands are an ideal choice. Some may argue that the SK brand, although not as popular, is a little superior to the Craftsman brand. But this opinion is subjective. Craftsmanship and SK brand tools are a more accessible to the buying market. For example, Craftsmanship brand tools are stocked at Sears stores, while the SK brand is found in automotive parts stores and outlets.

In summary, if price is no restraint, then tools from the Snap-on range are considered to be the best quality. Where quality and service is still a priority, then brands such as: matco, MAC and Cornwell offer offer quality profession lines of tools as less expensive price points. Finally, the brands SK and Craftsmanship serve the semi-professional market with tools that are not subject to the high demands of daily professional usage. The advice for any buyer is assess the task application of the tool, and allocate your budget to buy the right tool for the right job.

Automotive Dynamic Guide – How to Be Ready to Drive in a Foreign Land

If you are going to be behind the wheel of a new rented car, and in a strange foreign land where you have never driven before, what should you do in preparing to drive?

Just not so long ago, I was in Kuala Lumpur, the capital city of Malaysia, located just north of Singapore. As those of you who have traveled widely to Asia would know, the traffic on the roads in most of the Asian countries is heavy throughout the day, and many times driving habits take precedence over traffic rules and regulations, especially when the searing tropical heat bears down on cool heads, and raise tempers!

Before me was a small locally produced Malaysian car – the Perodua Kancil- named after the tiny deer that can run swiftly through the Malaysian jungles.

And I need to use that car, to brave the heavy traffic of the day to move to the next nearest city of Shah Alam to attend to a business meeting.

Alien to the area, alien to the car- what should I do?

Indeed, when you are confronted with such a situation, what should you do?

Keep cool – and PLAN your journey, and use the car intelligently.

For instance, perform the very, very basic inspection on your car before you even use it. This means:

1. check the tires and their pressure

2. check the engine oil and their brake fluid

3. check the battery

4. ensure the brakes are functioning ( there’s nothing like to take it for a short slow ride to put it to the test! )

Plan your journey- for instance, do not be afraid to ask directions and record them down so that you can always refer to the notes. Plan the timing of your journey – so that you can always drive during the slower traffic periods, away from the maddening crowds in the rush hour traffic. Protect yourself especially your eyes from the glaring tropical sun by wearing light sunglasses. Be properly attired. And wear shoes! The last tip on wearing shoes may seem funny, but when it is perennial summer in the tropics, many visitors, especially those who come from the cooler temperate countries would be tempted to wear only sandals!

And when you go on the roads, observe the speed limits. Do not push your vehicle to the maximum speed limits especially where you are driving along strange highways and where traffic jams are a norm.

In my personal case, I was astonished to see cars doubled parked along busy suburb shopping areas and feeder roads while I cruised my way to my destination. I wasn’t sure whether that was allowable, as the double parking of cars in two rows converted the road into a narrow one way path, leading to congestion at many parts. It sure was a “revelation”!

But in a strange land, where you are not the expert in local traffic rules, it is best to play it save. Drive defensively and plan your travel to ease your journey, and you will enjoy that ride.

Unique Oil Change Concepts Research

In the mobile oil change business there is no standard system, many folks simply build what works or buy a biz-op unit that makes since to them. For years we have studies these various types of units in the market place. If you are in the oil change business you realize how serious it is to stay efficient. In our company like anyone else in this industry, we are out to bring new innovation to the market. We have been looking at ways to better our services.

We have been to http://www.Kibbi.com in Elkhart, Indiana, we have viewed there unit in another state. We have discussed these and other concepts with other engineers and thinkers. What we have decided is that all ideas are worthy of exploration in our quest to find the most efficient and most environmentally sensitive units. Why are we so driven to build a better mouse-trap? Why are we un deterred with the exploitations of Box Stores changing oil, such as Wal-Mart on what appears to be a below cost endeavor at $12.99. Why do we believe that it is possible to stay efficient enough to compete? Because we see the new innovations out on the street and see entrepreneurs everywhere are rising to the occasion.

Well this year in San Diego, Jiffy Lube is announcing a new program for franchisees with extended bays and adding everything from brake jobs, and engine repair including complete R and R rebuilding of motors. It makes sense for them due to the increased competition in the market place. Midas Muffler has also gone to changing brakes and oil changes. Tilden Franchise is also looking to co-partner with other services and to bundle services to compete. Jiffy Lube’s largest franchisee with well over 150 stores; was de-listed by NASDAQ; are we witnessing a new era in automotive repair and oil changes? We think so.

We watched recently as Roger Penske left Kmart as they closed the doors on 500 stores nationwide and now are merging with Sears in their re-organization plan and closing another 150 stores. In Tucson, AZ for instance we see Kmart on the North West side of town pulling out of the market and then we see a new awesome Valvoline Oil Change Facility on the same property with a 2 million dollar carwash and Detailing Center? Why, well as Lance Fisher the proprietor sees it, he can bundle services, get a no interest loan deal from Valvoline, give the customers what they want and his incredible facility will draw three different services to the same property. Is this the answer to the price wars, bundling, like Microsoft? Well Lance Fisher bets with real money in Tucson, is that a good bet? We think it is, you should see this place, WOW, one of the nicest carwashes in the country, ranks up there with Auto-Wash East and Danny’s Family Carwashes in Phoenix.

These are just a few of the latest interesting changes in the Industry. Some would say this Industry is stagnant. We disagree. We are watching Kendall battle for the latest changes in oil change interval extension and the war against traditional thinking with AMSOIL, Mobile One and others. Lots of new innovations and claims to come; who will lead? Well as we approach the pack and have our sights on the Yellow Jersey, we believe that the team who can service the customer and bring the value will be team yellow. We know this is an up hill grind and we will pursue the race with open eyes and an open mind. If you are in the Oil Change Business Think on this.

Caring for Leather Car Interiors

Leather consists of thousands and thousands of intertwined fibers, with penetrable pores throughout–just like skin. Proper maintenance starts with cleaning the fibers. Cleaning removes fiber-severing abrasives and pore clogging dirt and dust, both of which will breakdown the leather over time and give it a less than pleasing texture and appearance.

If you have pets, then you may want to invest in pet pads or pet seat covers for your interior. You will also want to look into a good reflective sun shield.

With regular cleaning and conditioning, a leather interior will last for the life of the vehicle. Leather is tough and abuse resistant. The main concern is to determine is what type of leather interior you have, then choose cleaners and conditioners designed specifically for the task. Traditional leather interiors are made of 100% leather, where as some modern interiors are leather coated with a supple vinyl.

A quick test to determine which type you have is to use a small amount of cool clean water. Traditional leather will absorb water, where vinyl coated leather will repel it. Either way, a few drops of water won’t harm your interior.

The next step is to determine the right cleaners and conditioners for your leather. Saddle soap and conditioners, while good for your baseball glove or go-go boots, are not to be used on automotive leather of any kind. The soap contains alkalis, which can permanently damage the material in your seats. Household detergents and cleaners can damage leather as well. Always use only a product designed for the type of leather your vehicle has.

Removing harmful oil and dirt deposits is the crucial first step. Always use clean soft cloths to prevent damage to, or inadvertent removal of the leather dye. Stubborn dirt lodged into crevices may require the use of an upholstery brush. Removal of gunk and grime must be done before conditioning the leather, as you don’t want to permanently push these contaminants into the pores.

The next step, probably even more important, is conditioning. This nourishes and moisturizes to lubricate individual fibers, keeping them from becoming brittle and dry. It replaces essential, natural oils that evaporate. How can you tell a good conditioner? A good conditioner will offer UV protection. Like human skin, ultra-violet rays will quickly cause deterioration of the leather and shorten its lifespan significantly. A good conditioner will be absorbed into the leather, not sit atop the surface or leave residue behind. The surface should not be oily after application. The very best conditioners are pH balanced, have stain repellants, waterproofing agents to protect from accidents.

While cleaning and conditioning your interior be sure not to leave any tools or sharp objects in your pockets that could put a hole in your seats and your good time. As with any cleaner, conditioner or chemical that involves the potential for ruining something really expensive, always test first in a small, inconspicuous area.

Inexpensive leather cleaners and conditioners will contain petroleum distillates, silicon or silicon oils, and gloss agents that deliver an inferior, greasy finish that does nothing for the leather, and transfers to anything that the leather comes in contact with. These chemicals are harmful to your leather.